Comments on: How to Say No http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no Build self confidence, be more confident, confidence building help Sat, 13 Mar 2010 16:02:56 +0100 hourly 1 By: Selena http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-7217 Selena Sat, 30 Jan 2010 06:29:42 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-7217 I believe you are right from my point of view. I have a friend her name is Alanh and she asked my to do her work. Ok it took my a minute or two to figure out what to do. She is my best friend and everything but when i say Alanh I really have to get my work done. I did want to hurt her feelings because i am polite and you are suppose to be nice to anyone and everyone. She took it the wrong way and got super angry; she riped the paper cryed and said i wont be your friend if you won't help me. I found myself being a broken record; no i really have to do my work<br>no i really have to do my work<br>no i really have to do my work <br>so i thing you are right and so is this article I believe you are right from my point of view. I have a friend her name is Alanh and she asked my to do her work. Ok it took my a minute or two to figure out what to do. She is my best friend and everything but when i say Alanh I really have to get my work done. I did want to hurt her feelings because i am polite and you are suppose to be nice to anyone and everyone. She took it the wrong way and got super angry; she riped the paper cryed and said i wont be your friend if you won't help me. I found myself being a broken record; no i really have to do my work
no i really have to do my work
no i really have to do my work
so i thing you are right and so is this article

]]> By: Montana http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6954 Montana Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:20:58 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6954 @carrie Ya, standing your ground on the decision change is paramount, changing your mind once is ok, changing it twice on the same subject is impardonable @carrie
Ya, standing your ground on the decision change is paramount, changing your mind once is ok, changing it twice on the same subject is impardonable

]]> By: David http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6832 David Sun, 10 May 2009 09:37:10 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6832 Carrie - we all make decisions that we later regret. Changing our mind isn't a major sin. Look at the "bill of rights" on my assertiveness posts. As you say, be honest, apologise once, and state your new decision - giving whatever explanation you deem appropriate. But don't get into a discussion and dilute your new decision - use broken record to repeat your "no" Nancy - thanks for your compliments and sharing your experience. Carrie – we all make decisions that we later regret. Changing our mind isn’t a major sin. Look at the “bill of rights” on my assertiveness posts. As you say, be honest, apologise once, and state your new decision – giving whatever explanation you deem appropriate. But don’t get into a discussion and dilute your new decision – use broken record to repeat your “no”
Nancy – thanks for your compliments and sharing your experience.

]]> By: Nancy http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6830 Nancy Sat, 09 May 2009 09:08:37 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6830 Excellent article. After I read your article I totally agree that honesty is the best policy. I don't think I am a people pleaser but often I might send the wrong message because I am very polite. Friendship should be give and take. Don't expect one person to pay for everything. For instance, I have a friend visiting me from Demark. He stays in my house for a week. I took him to places, shows, dinners, sport events, etc. The first day he's in town I offer to treat him to a very expensive dinner. After that he either assumes or having the expectations that he stays for a week only so I should catering to his needs. He never offers to pay for anything. After spending $500 for the first two days I finally say "no" to him when he asks me to go to Mall of America, to shop and to have dinner there. I politely tell him that I am "DONE" spending money for the week. I don't want to go to Mall of American and I will not spend anymore money for foods, entertainments, drinks or shoppings. Being politely is not the same as being easy. Some people just don't get it. Don't feel guilty repeating "NO" until they get the message. Some people can push it to the limit. Just walk away from people who are trying to take advantage of you. Excellent article.

After I read your article I totally agree that honesty is the best policy. I don’t think I am a people pleaser but often I might send the wrong message because I am very polite. Friendship should be give and take. Don’t expect one person to pay for everything. For instance, I have a friend visiting me from Demark. He stays in my house for a week. I took him to places, shows, dinners, sport events, etc. The first day he’s in town I offer to treat him to a very expensive dinner. After that he either assumes or having the expectations that he stays for a week only so I should catering to his needs. He never offers to pay for anything. After spending $500 for the first two days I finally say “no” to him when he asks me to go to Mall of America, to shop and to have dinner there. I politely tell him that I am “DONE” spending money for the week. I don’t want to go to Mall of American and I will not spend anymore money for foods, entertainments, drinks or shoppings. Being politely is not the same as being easy. Some people just don’t get it. Don’t feel guilty repeating “NO” until they get the message. Some people can push it to the limit. Just walk away from people who are trying to take advantage of you.

]]> By: Carrie http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6827 Carrie Tue, 05 May 2009 13:53:15 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6827 How about saying no to something that you regret saying yes to? I committed to something that I wish I didn't - is there a graceful way out of this? Just be honest and say exactly this? That I regret committing and I have to say no? How about saying no to something that you regret saying yes to? I committed to something that I wish I didn’t – is there a graceful way out of this? Just be honest and say exactly this? That I regret committing and I have to say no?

]]> By: Stay the Course http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6561 Stay the Course Sat, 10 Jan 2009 11:32:01 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6561 [...] the right to express an opinion, say how someones behavior makes you feel, to disagree. Learn to say no - like any techniques you need to practice! __________________ David Self Esteem Review How to [...] [...] the right to express an opinion, say how someones behavior makes you feel, to disagree. Learn to say no – like any techniques you need to practice! __________________ David Self Esteem Review How to [...]

]]> By: Ron Lambert http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6395 Ron Lambert Sun, 09 Nov 2008 18:20:23 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6395 I recently completed the third section in an article about building and maintaining personal boundaries. I enjoyed your article so much that I linked it to the saying NO part to help my readers learn how. As I said before, good work! <abbr><em><abbr><em>Ron Lamberts last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/MaydecemberSecrets/~3/417032653/" rel="nofollow">How Reese’s Cups and a Dime Ruined My Life (Part Two of Two)</a></em></abbr></abbr></em> I recently completed the third section in an article about building and maintaining personal boundaries. I enjoyed your article so much that I linked it to the saying NO part to help my readers learn how. As I said before, good work!

Ron Lamberts last blog post..How Reese’s Cups and a Dime Ruined My Life (Part Two of Two)

]]> By: 5 Ways to Protect Your Boundaries | MayDecember Secrets... http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6394 5 Ways to Protect Your Boundaries | MayDecember Secrets... Sun, 09 Nov 2008 18:15:25 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6394 [...] So, you have figured out at least a few boundaries that are missing in your life. Now, all you have to do is begin saying NO when appropriate. How do you decide when and how? [...] [...] So, you have figured out at least a few boundaries that are missing in your life. Now, all you have to do is begin saying NO when appropriate. How do you decide when and how? [...]

]]> By: Anomoly http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6391 Anomoly Sun, 09 Nov 2008 05:20:19 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6391 very good post. nice work. very good post. nice work.

]]> By: Saying no effectively… | MS Tech News http://confident1.com/how-to-say-no/comment-page-1#comment-6362 Saying no effectively… | MS Tech News Mon, 27 Oct 2008 22:59:32 +0000 http://confident1.com/?p=268#comment-6362 [...] myself taking on far too much – and then becoming overwhelmed with work and home stuff.  So this post caught my eye.  I always turn no into a negotiation and then take the project on [...] [...] myself taking on far too much – and then becoming overwhelmed with work and home stuff.  So this post caught my eye.  I always turn no into a negotiation and then take the project on [...]

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