Comments on: Stop Seeking the Approval of Others

By: Om

Om — Sat, 07 May 2011 13:32:14 +0000

Nice post.

Even following or having role model isn’t “External Approval Seeking”.

By: KALIUMA

KALIUMA — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 05:09:12 +0000

It’s none of my business what other people are thinking about me. Their thoughts are their private domain. So when I start approval seeking I say to myself (kindly): “It’s none of my business!”

By: illeagle

illeagle — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 22:00:05 +0000

Freedom is knowing that there is no authority outside of yourself.

By: glenn age 53

glenn age 53 — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 16:42:51 +0000

Approval seeking can be overcome if you desire to be free of it, as a medical office Administrator and a consistant student of Mental Health, I have come to understand this distuctive behavior, specially in itimate relationships such as marriage, a degree of approval is healthly but when it becomes unhealthly is when its all the time on a consistant seeking cycle, building your self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect from others will never gain or substance a person for a suficient time but these emotions are very needed and you should find those healthy ways (maybe a mentalhealth professional) that are comfortable for you to gain grounds in those areas, soon you well begin to feel the change and the true value you do have without having to rely on others for your worth and value.

By: Larry

Larry — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 21:30:23 +0000

“…remind yourself that most people are quite self centered. In the same way you spend most of your time full of self talk, worrying about you, other people are not as concerned about you as you think.”

Sage advice. I’ll try and remember that whenever I can.

Larry

By: Nick Grimshawe

Nick Grimshawe — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 05:30:31 +0000

Hi David,

Another interesting article. I like the idea of the Portfolio where you put your accomplishments and things your feel you did a good job on.

As some one who had problems with self esteem, approval seeking is one of the hardest things to overcome and to understand.

I got there with my journal, and a lot of reading: articles like this, books, and one very good coaching program.

You do an awesome job, keep up the good work.

Walk in quiet places.

Nick

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By: Alex Kay

Alex Kay — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 11:49:25 +0000

Wonderful post, David.

Not seeking approval (to approve yourself) is so important in life.

Have a GREAT day

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By: David

David — Mon, 26 May 2008 08:02:11 +0000

Christine
Confidence, self esteem, motivation – none of these are permanent states. But in the same way we have to do things daily to maintain our physical health – eat, drink, sleep, wash, etc – you may need to do things regularly to improve your self esteem. This probably centers on thinking habits, as we can easily get into negative habits as we grow up.
So do persevere. David

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By: Christine

Christine — Sun, 25 May 2008 06:27:31 +0000

I had read a lot of moivation book like this..and im always charge up after reading these..but still..after a few days i’ll like back to the same position.,..
what should i do to mantain my self esteem?

Thanks,
Christine

By: David

David — Thu, 22 May 2008 20:35:17 +0000

Jenna – I agree, although appreciate for some its easier said than done.
Robert – I hadn’t thought of any link to the LoA! Although I’m not the total skeptic that I once was, and use techniques like affirmations that LoA followers also use, the LoA does not give me a framework for personal development.

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