Comments on: Toxic People and Spots

By: Martin - Security.

Martin - Security. — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 16:53:44 +0000

Interesting post. I am amused about the offer to enhance your photograph.

I don’t think there is software powerful enough to enhance any photo of me, it would give up under the strain :0) But, “I am what I yam.” as my favorite cartoon character says.
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By: Montana

Montana — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:05:09 +0000

I love the way you separate assertiveness from agresivity in your posts, I think that’s a point that’s seldom made.

By: David

David — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 21:49:24 +0000

Thank you all for your comments. Trying to understand why people are “bad” is really a separate issue from how we deal with them on a day to day basis. Even if someone has had a terrible childhood and every thing possible has gone wrong for them since, it doesn’t give them an excuse to bring us down as well.
Apart from avoiding/dropping people, which may not be possible or desirable, it comes back to being assertive. If you look up my assertiveness posts, and how to express feelings, this really forms the backbone of how confident communication. I can’t link from within comments, let me know if you get stuck.

By: Kashmira

Kashmira — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 21:10:53 +0000

These toxic personalities are indeed bad for our mental health. Most of the times we DO recognize them and feel really uncomfortable around them. I would love to know how to handle these people, most of us try to be accommodating towards everyone and do get sucked into their negativity. How can we manage to come out of this? Would love to see pointers on that! Kashmiras last blog post..Do What You Can!

By: Montana

Montana — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 09:39:27 +0000

I don’t think people are bad from birth, rather that the society molds them, and that childhood experiences are usually character-defining.

By: Atina

Atina — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 14:12:53 +0000

I know that there are bad people, but I also know that we never asked why that people are bad (probably because of their circumstances) and we are never asked whether we may be bad for them. I think that we should think a little about these issues.

By: David

David — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 20:22:11 +0000

Thanks Ian for your comment and kind words. What attracted me to that post was my recognising several of the people, past and present, who I have been in contact with. Work places in particular have been full of toxic people, not always easy to avoid.

By: Ian Barrett

Ian Barrett — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 19:15:00 +0000

Great blog. Thanks a lot. I seem to have a lot of toxic people around me, and they are very intoxicating. My father, God rest his soul, was a very negative person – always moaning about the neighbours and other people. As I enter middle age, I have got more like him, but am fighting it!