Comments on: What are you worrying about?

By: How to avoid busyness #4: The Worrywart — Reason-4-Smile Weblog

Wed, 12 Dec 2007 14:33:18 +0000

[...] stop worrying, there is another great article from confidence1.com about worry that I recently read, and this gives me a lot of insights about [...]

By: Sol Lederman

Sol Lederman — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 14:58:57 +0000

Nice post. I’m aware that most of what I worry about never happens. What has helped me the most was to quit my cushy but draining job and go own on my own as an entrepreneur. It’s interesting, now that I have much less income than I did a month ago but living my dream I worry a lot less even though my future is less “certain” than it supposedly was when I had a job.

By: Robert @ reason4smile

Robert @ reason4smile — Sat, 08 Dec 2007 14:24:29 +0000

David, great message, thanks for reminding all of us not to worry!

By: Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind)

Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind) — Sat, 08 Dec 2007 03:44:20 +0000

I totally subscribe to what you are saying here David. And a speak as a former member of the Worrying Party.

But I actually use the ‘worst case scenario’ as a tool to manage worry. I calmly examine the worse case scenario and establish that if it happened I would not be destroyed. And then there’s no point in worrying.

By: David Rogers

David Rogers — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 18:10:47 +0000

Gale, as I’ve said before “if it works for you, go for it…”
Nice to hear from you again Mert
Maria – I think my photo is of a similar vein to this idea, look at the absurd or extreme, put things in proportion.

By: Never the Same River Twice

Never the Same River Twice — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 15:48:22 +0000

I’ve had a lot of struggles with worry in my life. In the past I’ve used some techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to deal with them.

One technique is to take whatever you’re worrying about and completely blow it out of proportion. For example, if you’re worried about losing your job, you would imagine yourself getting fired, losing all of your friends and family, ending up homeless, and freezing to death in the rain. This may sound macabre, but it forces you to realize that nothing is bad as it seems. In comparison, being downsized, on unemployment for a couple of months and finding a new job seems easy.

Thanks for sharing your techniques.

By: Mert Erkal

Mert Erkal — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 06:48:15 +0000

Very good insight David.

I rarely worry about losing my family. I don’t care what the others are thinking about me.

By: gale

gale — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 20:17:45 +0000

insightful post. i always put a positive spin on worry, however. In the 7th grade, my (favorite) teacher said “you should worry. worry about your work and you will do well”. Since then, I viewed worry as a mechanism to help me attain my goals – when i stop worrying, my goals are achieved. My definition of worry is vastly different from yours, but your post nonetheless is great motivation for people who worry instead of focusing on problem-solving. keep up the great blogging!

By: David

David — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 22:44:52 +0000

The more we look at worry rationally, the more absurd it becomes!
The twins are the taller two, center and right as you look at the photo. It was taken in July on the last day of a holiday in Croatia – which is why we all look brown!

By: Simonne

Simonne — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 21:32:26 +0000

If the sun doesn’t come back, all we need is to have flashlights nearby, so we can find our way in the darkness. There’s no point to worry before it happens. And when it did happen, there’s no point to worry, because we cannot turn back time anyway.

Which are the twins in your family photo?