Comments on: When New Year Resolutions Break Down

By: Confidence is Crucial

Confidence is Crucial — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 11:11:04 +0000

[...] When New Year Resolutions Break Down [...]

By: Mercola

Mercola — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 09:07:54 +0000

Greetings,

Me as well had a new year resolutions before and it was also to quite smoking because i know it has no good benefits on my body. and currently i am so happy without consuming 1 pack of cigarette or even an stick of cigarette. Other may also do this what they need is self discipline and willingness.

By: David

David — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:32:58 +0000

Maudrey
My new year resolution is to ensure I respond to comments! Thanks for your continues intelligent comments and support of this blog. I agree, focus on a few things and make them work, not several.

By: David

David — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:30:53 +0000

Tom
Our thinking has a huge impact on our behaviour, as I said above I believe strongly this is an internal interaction and our thinking cannot directly affect the behaviour of others. If people use the LoA and it helps improve their thinking habits and good use of affirmations or visualisation, great! If it gets results, whatever the flawed logic in using it, so be it. Many people use alternative therapies (like homeopathy) which make as much sense as the LoA – if their belief and the “attention” they get from the therapist improves their condition, again great. But I do have a problem when people spend money they cannot afford, give up prescribed medications or take other damaging actions whether its LoA or alternative therapies.

By: David

David — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:16:57 +0000

Maria, reflecting on my own attempts at changing over the years, its easy to forget how difficult it can be and that we don’t get taught how to change at school. Some may think all or nothing resolutions the only way to change.
You could argue that I attribute low self esteem to any problem! However, I think its fair to say most resolutions are unhappiness driven.
And its still blimming cold here!

By: Maudrey

Maudrey — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 10:24:22 +0000

I totally agree that you don't have to make resolutions to change only at the start of the year. I, for one, try to change things about myself and my life as I see them and feel them necessary, regardless of the time of the year. The view you shared here that resolutions may be coming from a place of low self-esteem is something I'm reading about for the first time. But it makes perfect sense. Because, really, if that's the case then it's all bound to fail. I also think it's very difficult to try to make 10 resolutions all at the same time. This isn't only difficult during New Year but any other time. I think it's better to just focus on 1-2 things at a time. That seems more realistic to me. Maudreys last blog post..The Bridal Veil: A Very Important Part of a Chinese Wedding

By: tom

tom — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:56:54 +0000

Hmm I guess we can't really make generalizations and I think its all in the mind and your actions. personally i still got debt but I have shifted my focus on paying that off aggressively while at the same time attempting to start a coaching business, home based through my website. So i still work a job and keep it to pay off the debt each month, even if its a bit but better then nothing. Sure I don't have the courage to just grab more debt and risk it to run a business or something. I chose the bootstrapping method instead and that is what I feel comfortable. toms last blog post..Your passion is the only way to success

By: Maria | Never the Same River Twice

Maria | Never the Same River Twice — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 15:19:53 +0000

This is an interesting perspective, David. I never really thought about the way that many resolutions are made out of a place of low self esteem. Regrets and hangovers, yes, but not low self esteem. I think most people fail to change because they try to do too much too quickly, get overwhelmed and end up hating themselves and their goals (I guess that could lower the self esteem a bit?!). And you're right that in the Northern Hemisphere January is about the hardest time to change. Our batteries are running low and it's too damn cold to care! Maria | Never the Same River Twices last blog post..Traveling By Your Inner Compass: Plotting Out The First Week

By: David

David — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 08:08:34 +0000

Raymond – I think the weigh loss industry will forever boom!
Tom – As someone who thinks the Law of attraction is twaddle this is an interesting perspective!! I disagree with the argument that that you “attract” more debt or weight by focusing your thoughts on the problem rather than how you want to be. My argument is more that people with weight or money problems can adopt poor strategies to resolve those problems (and identifying the real problem in the first place). A “resolution” is a sign someone is unhappy with the current situation.
Visualization and affirmations can help in making change. But again, they work internally and don’t “attract” through magnetic vibrations as LoA advocates seem to argue.

By: tom

tom — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 03:43:47 +0000

Great article, this reinforces the law of attraction. Meaning if you focus on losing weight or getting out of debt then you will attract more of it. People should use the law of polarity (i think thats the name) let me give an example You want to: loose weight, instead your goal should be to have a tonned body with ripped abs....just think about how that will change your attitude? Each morning you wake up thinking about ripped abs as opposed to losing weight. toms last blog post..What does being “rich” really mean?