Great Self Confidence

...to live the life you want

About this blog

What is this blog about

Finding the self confidence to move forward, to make changes and develop a happier, more satisfying and rewarding life.

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To that end the blog posts focus on ideas, hints, tips and  exercises  to help facilitate change. The emphasis is on practical, skills learning rather than psycho-babble! The main focus has been  on building self confidence as we see that as the core attribute in whatever you choose to do with your life.

Lifestyle Design has become a somewhat fashionable of late, probably for the wrong reasons (like you only have to work 4 hours a week!). But it does highlight how many people are dissatisfied with their lives, drifting through adulthood thinking “Is that It?”

Few people function perfectly or arrive in adulthood with all the skills they need to make the most of their one life. Making changes can be tough, particularly without help.

Can this blog help you?

If you are looking for a quick fix, spiritual advice or guidance on the Law of Attraction then you’ve come to the wrong place! A sub title of this blog is “woo-woo free personal development” to reflect our frustration at the amount of crap that is  written and sold as supposedly personal development material. Get real people!

Self development  largely revolves around acquiring skills such as good communication (assertiveness, confident speaking),  problem solving, goal setting, planning, concentration, self motivation, stress management – to name a few. Trust and faith in ones abilities (self confidence) and healthy self esteem are the foundations of self development, which is why they are the main focus.

One of our favourite quotes is by Viktor Frankl:-

Don’t aim at success – the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a courses greater than oneself.

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Comments

  1. Hi David,
    Great site you have got here. I’m sure it’ll be useful to many.
    Thanks for visiting my site.
    Blessings.

  2. David:

    I learned about you from Priscilla’s List of PD sites and decided to come over for a visit.

    I enjoyed the article about the vision board computer software. ARe you still using it? I tried to find an email address to correspond with you directly but could not find it hence this comment thing. If you click my name above, you’ll be given my email address – I think and I hope!

    In any case, there’s one other thing I wanted to mention. You talk about the power and importance of having confidence. I couldn’t agree more! A blogger recently wrote an article at “Pursue the Passion” where its title was “What Confidence Can Do For You.” If you google that, you’ll find the article. It’s about what my fifth grade teacher did for me so many years ago.

    If you find that story inspiring and you think your readers would enjoy learning more about this, let me know and I’ll forward you a link to a YouTube video I created to emphasize the importance of what teachers can do for people.

    Looking forward to your correspondence soon!

    Stephen Hopson from the USA

  3. David:

    I, too, was bemused and befuddled by the “success system” question at Personal Development Partners… and I quite like your “system”, as well.

    Thank you for an enlightened and pragmatic post… I laughed, and smiled, and even said “Hmmm…” once while I was reading it – that’s when I knew I needed to let you know how much I enjoyed it.

  5. Hi David

    It took me quite a while to get here but I’m glad I finally did.

    I agree to a great extent about your definition of personal development. In fact, it is very much in line with my own definition. I believe that we should always have core desires (in your case, passion) and then learning new skills & qualities or improving on current ones.

    However, I will like to go a step further by saying that we should accompany our desires and our quest for learning with effective actions and modifications. In fact, you did mention this in the post above, about how many of us read personal development skill books and then put them down without making any changes. I’m just saying that this step should also be part of the system you mentioned above.

    By the way, it is also heart warming to know that you are passionate and care a lot about your family. Despite being quite young and not having started a family of my own yet, I am a strict advocate of strong family ties and values. My family, especially my mother, has been and will always be a integral part of my life and my personal development.

    And oh ya before I forget, really great introductory post! Thank you.

    Best Regards

    Shafi’e

  6. I have read many of the books included on your great list. I especially enjoyed Frank Tibolt’s, A Touch of Greatness.

    I’m commenting here to let you and everyone else know that Frank’s inspiring and classic book is once again available again in print (as well as eBook form):

    http://www.mindstudio.com/products/touchofgreatnessbook.htm

    Spread the word…..this is a classic read.

    “Use all the brains you have and borrow the rest from the classics and wise sayings.” Frank Tibolt

    Have a great day!

    Kevin

  7. Hi David,
    I discovered you via Michael Martine’s blog. Self confidence (I sometimes think of it as “inner conviction”) is a most useful attribute when transitioning from the familiar to the unknown.

  9. Thanks for your site — I found you via “Yhe Good Blogs.”

    I appreciate your SHORT list of books you found useful, Five books I can deal with, while many times such lists are way way too long to be practical,

    be well.
    -ron k jeffries

  10. Hi David

    Thanks for the link, what a terrific site; I will pop back to have a more extensive look again.
    Best of luck and look forward to seeing you at college next week.

    All the best
    Simon

  11. Hi David. I just ran across your blog and love it! I am just starting up as a blogger, and see yours as an example of what I am striving for. I will definitely subscribe!
    Thanks.

  13. Hi David,

    Thanks for finding me on Twitter. I just setup my profile and I am already having people find me. Glad to meet you and check out your website. I am already liking it and can see we have similar motivations in writing our blogs. I have found the couple articles I have read to be insightful and definitely will be visiting again!

    Cheers,
    Jeremy

  14. Nice blog! Self confidence is the common trait of all successful people. Don’t forget to make people laugh, only then can you rule the world 🙂

  15. Excellent post!

    It will definitely make lots of people think about what you wrote.

    Success begins in the mind. Do you want success (whatever that means to you)?
    Then, get busy re-programming your mind for success. THAT is the ONLY
    way — because “what you believe is what you will get”.

    You got a very good site. Lots of success to you!

    John.