Every now and then I read something that makes me smile and feel good. Doesn't happen that often, so I'm going to share an article I've just read. Its by Kathryn Martyn and entitled Sexy People Have This: Do You? I've taken one of her subtitles as my title as, really, there is nothing as sexy as self confidence!
I see myself as beautiful because that’s how I want to see myself. You could say I’m my own best friend. I build myself up, rather than tear myself down. I do the same thing regarding health so even if I feel lousy, I’m more likely to say (if asked), that I feel fine, thank you very much. It’s a mental game, yes, but it’s a game I play to win. I believe (which makes it true for me) that if I tell myself positive things, then positive things will follow.
I have no idea what Kathryn looks like, or how old she is. But I do know she looks awesome – because that's how she chooses to look. She briefly mentions self talk and challenging the negative inner voice. But the main message is to establish from the outset that you are beautiful.
Its your beauty within that you project. If you allow yourself to believe this, not get hung up on outer flaws that obsess you but are invisible to others, then self confidence can flourish. Power comes from feeling confident; you can build that self confidence by nurturing that inner beauty.
This is the advice Kathryn closes with
Just for fun, today as you go about your usual routine, pretend you are the richest, most beautiful creature alive. Smile at the world with the knowledge that you are perfect, window shop knowing you can have anything you want. Hold your head high, your back straight and notice how much better you feel with this new found confidence. Notice also how people see you differently. They smile and nod. They wonder, what is it about that lady that makes me want to watch her? What’s he got, that I don’t? There is a seed of beauty and self confidence inside you. Water it, nurture it, and it will grow.
How about it? Lets shout it again –
"There is a seed of beauty and self confidence inside you"
What are you doing to allow it to grow?
I have read Kathryn's article too and it's very inspiring. There is indeed a seed of confidence in all of us and sometimes we need a little guidance from others to help it grow.
Great blog David!
I agree confidence is very important when meeting people. I also do think however that someone with a LOT of confidence can sometimes appear sexy, yet potentially be a very bad match in a relationship. Finding someone who you have a lot in common with, similar goals, outlook on live etc will lead to more satifying relationships than just going for the sexy confident person.
(I realise the article is about a lot more than just this, but thought I would add my thoughts).
Yes I certainlybuy that one!! I think I'll try it out for size. Judy
I agree confidence can be sexy but on the other hand to much confidence can make a person seem arrogant to other people. It can also make you seem unapproachable. I think you should have a good mix of confidence and humbleness in your self.
I feel so sexy reading this. I happen to have the self confidence I need to love and be loved.
Sometimes though I feel so insecure, losing this self confidence I have now. I think it’s just normal to feel that way sometimes. The sad and bad thing about not having enough self confidence is insecurities and jealousy. When your self esteem is low, you’ll get paranoid, jealous and insecure and believe me this will make you ugly.
Sexy inside and out, that is self confidence. It will lead you to a new you, bright sexy person that everyone would love to be with.
However, don’t let your self confidence ruin you. Too much of anything is just as bad as having nothing.