Confidence building exercise – portfolio

To build self confidence, a good starting point is an inventory of what we have done well. Unfortunately we are very good at recalling our failures, situations where things didn’t go so well. This is partly because of the emotional attachment that helps make things going badly stand out, whereas doing something well (but not getting praise from others or ourselves) may not register much emotionally. Also, when your confidence is low, its easy to dismiss successful events as insignificant.

For now start building a portfolio of achievements. This can be work or school related, personal life, pursuing a hobby – anything you like. And you can go back as far as you can remember.

If possible start a ring binder or folder to keep this list and future exercises in. Apart from anything else it reinforces the fact that you are important, the achievements you are listing are worth recording on more than a scrap of paper. Its also useful to include visual reminders, such as photographs, if you have them.

This is something you can do over time and also ask people close to you to give suggestions – so long as you choose people who will be positive! Have a mix of statements – My greatest achievement is…. I am very good at…. I played a great game of…. on…. I can cook …….. better than anyone I have a wonderful (family member)…..

Such a “portfolio” is a great way of giving our confidence a boost – either as a first aid measure when needed or to gradually build a firmer foundation for our self confidence.

Larry May 25, 2008 at 10:29 pm

I not sure if I need a ‘ring binder or folder’ or the back of a stamp! 🙂

But joking aside this idea has a lot of merit.

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Six Deck Blackjack September 22, 2008 at 9:47 am

In order to achieve anything in life, it is important that you know your self worth. So maintain an awareness of all that you do for the world. Take a minute each day to remind yourself – or write down – what you’ve accomplished at work, in your love life, in social settings, at your office, with your finances, and so on. Realize what you are capable of doing and you will feel stronger and have more self-confidence.

Toronto Personal Training August 31, 2011 at 2:03 pm

achievements are very much kept by you as being the trophy! Keep your reputation up by knowing a lot of people to recognize your goals and achievements.

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