In a funny sort of way, this blog is an example of gaining confidence in something simply by doing. And now, I've hit 100 posts. My early posts were considerably shorter than what I write now.
But whether or not we believe other people, trusting ourselves should be simpler. Rational, unemotional, self assessment should tell us whether or not we have the skills and ability to do something. If the answer is yes – end of story? No, the story goes on.
Quite a few posts have been purely skills based – such as learning assertiveness, how to say no, how to improve your speaking voice, how to solve problems. But to date 24 posts have been tagged with "thinking" – automatic thoughts, irrational thinking, affirmations, worry. So much of our self confidence, our trust in ourselves, is undermined by our thinking.
Unfortunately, most of us are extremely skilled at thinking negatively! Another thing I have learned since starting this blog – the world is full of nice, supportive and friendly people. And you can find them all on the Internet! There are very negative stories about the Internet, how it can lead to fraudulent, destructive, anti-social behaviors.
If you raise your head above the parapet, you will immediately be subject to abuse of some kind. I have learned from people generous in spirit and free with advice. A blog doesn't survive without people making comments and other sites linking in. There are many regular visitors and commentators and others who I have met up with over the past 99 posts.
Some I mentioned last time, but I would like to say a special hello to Monika at Freelance Writing and Priscilla Palmer. But thanks to everyone who has given me support and friendship since I started. It has given me the confidence and motivation to keep going and strive to get better. Here's to the next 100.
If only it was that easy lol!
It takes a lot of commitment, positive attitude and courage to build confidence. It is not something that happens overnight.
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Congratulations on your 100th post!!
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I think we are born with self trust which we unlearn quickly!
Adults hovering over us – worrying about us – trying to keep us safe.
Adults telling us we are too young to make that decision and we should follow their advice…
Etc….Etc….
Obviously their intervention in our lives is their expression of love through their own lack of self trust vision….
So — we need to go back to core of our being – self trust lives at our core – it didn’t go away – it is still communicating with us… We just need to reach in…….
Congratulations on your 100th post!! 😉
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Thanks – and thank you for your support with comments on previous posts. David
I can’t wait for the next 100 David!
On a side-note about friendly people on the internet; I just read about a man who had been robbed for almost everything he owned. He wasn’t wealthy at all, just had enough to live. But when he suddenly got robbed, he didn’t have anything. He wrote about it on the PostSecret forum, and after a few days, a really friendly member sent him all the money he had lost + more to live even better.
I think that shows the power of the internet really well.
I really enjoy your writing style,
keep it up 🙂
Alex
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Alex – I must have posted on your site around the same time you came over here. The Internet – particularly blogging -can flatten out different ages, cultures, gender, background. Thanks, best wishes
David
Great job, you have reached 100 posts! It’s important that we have to build a better confidence, we need to believe in our self! Trust in ourselves is very important.
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Great article David. You are right that the more confident we are, the more we can cope with uncertainty around us.
Kristin
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Hi, this is very good post. Prepration is a very good way to build confidence. Get prepair for any situtation is more important for self confidence. I realy like this post.
I would be interested in how you balance self-confidence with the ability to change.
I greatly admire people who are able to change their opinion in a discussion (eg. not enter full lockdown defense mode as soon as someone challenges their opinion), so I try my best to be such a person.
However, if one enters a discussion on the point of view that he may be wrong about something, he likely will not sound all that confident, appearing to hold the weaker hand in a discussion and possibly even creating an image of someone who can be bullied around.
I would be interested in how you balance self-confidence with the ability to change.
I greatly admire people who are able to change their opinion in a discussion (eg. not enter full lockdown defense mode as soon as someone challenges their opinion), so I try my best to be such a person.
However, if one enters a discussion on the point of view that he may be wrong about something, he likely will not sound all that confident, appearing to hold the weaker hand in a discussion and possibly even creating an image of someone who can be bullied around.