In April I was writing about my daughter having the self confidence to work in a children’s home in India for 3 months. Now I have just been listening to a colleague, Sophie, who has just given up a good job to do some voluntary work as an Occupational Therapist in the Himalayas, […]

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I have now put 10 blogs into the category of assertiveness - including all the saying “no” blogs and the bill of rights. But I have yet to define assertiveness, or say why it is so important for having great self confidence.
The best definition I can find, says being assertive means:-
“expressing my rights […]

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My final technique for saying “no”, is by far the simplest - but certainly not the easiest! By just saying “no”, and nothing else you may be perceived as rude or aggressive. But like all the other techniques, circumstances may demand it.
“Can you work tomorrows shift for me”
“No”
“Please, I really need tomorrow off”
“No”
“There’s […]

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About 6 weeks ago I posted in Come for a swim? my intention of doing a challenge. In this case swimming 1.4 miles in the cold English sea between two piers! I also said I would raise £150.
In my mind, I’ve never regarded myself as a great one for raising sponsorship. As an […]

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Moving on with our saying “No” series, the next stage is another more “negotiation” type statement. Responding with a question, asking for information, is another way of stalling whilst clarifying the exact request being made. Its not giving in, but simply clarify what is being asked.
For example, following on with our request to […]

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We’ve all done it - typed our name into Google to see who else is out there (or whether we register in some way!). I did this yesterday and had quite a shock. I had blogged about the London marathon back in April, saying how completing it was such a tremendous achievement.
What I […]

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