Taking the plunge

Reflecting on the blogs I have made to date it occurred to me that my own confidence in “blogging” and running a website has been transformed over the past couple of months. Like many, many others I had toyed with the idea of setting a site like this up for years. But until I actually […]

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New situations can throw us!

One simple issue that can throw us is coping with new situations. Last week my employers were making a DVD about changes happening, and needed “volunteers” to ask questions on camera for the Chief Executive to answer. Having “volunteered” I prepared a question and thought nothing of it. When the time came to speak for […]

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Broken record

Another useful technique is called “broken record”, where you basically keep repeating the same answer. If someone is persistent and keeps repeating requests, its tempting to keep finding new ways of saying no. This gradually dilutes your response and makes you bring in excuses and apologies. So if at the request from a colleague is […]

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Say no without apologising

The other day I asked if you were a “yes” person, as sometimes saying no can prove very difficult. If you lack confidence, you avoid the straight no, and offer up excuses – creating more complex and apologetic replies when these are batted back at you.. However, a simple “no” can be interpreted as quite […]

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Come for a swim?

Two days ago I had my first swim of the year in the sea. Big deal? Well it is if you live in England as the water is very cold still! Even in the height of summer its quite cold. On Saturday I only managed 10 minutes before having to come out. But inspired by […]

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Could you stop complaining for 21 days?

One of the joys of living this side of the Atlantic is I have never seen “Oprah”. However – trying to find my way around Mybloglog.com I came across a great site called UnconditionalConfidence.com, run by Nancy Tierney. Nancy reviewed an episode of Oprah that feature a Pastor, Will Bowen, who initially challenged his congregation […]

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Are you a “yes” person?

One problem with wanting to be liked is you agree to requests from others without looking at your needs. Over the years I have met many people who would automatically say “yes”, thinking that it would help them make friends and be liked. Unfortunately, just saying “yes” means you get used and abused. Learning to […]

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Are you popular?

  Happy Anniversary Tony! Do you worry about people not liking you? Do you try to be friends to everyone – and end up with lots of acquaintances but few real friends? Today is the tenth anniversary of Tony Blair becoming British Prime Minister. Now, I have no hard facts to back this up, but […]

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