Confidence – who puts you down?

Does anyone keep putting you down? I will return to the issue of dealing with the negative messages we all get whilst growing up, but this is about the here and now. Unfortunately there are many people out there in relationships with, working with, or friends with people who consistently make negative remarks about them […]

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Confidence building exercise – portfolio

To build self confidence, a good starting point is an inventory of what we have done well. Unfortunately we are very good at recalling our failures, situations where things didn’t go so well. This is partly because of the emotional attachment that helps make things going badly stand out, whereas doing something well (but not […]

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Take the confidence check

How confident are you? I’ve come across this simple, ten question, quiz that gives a confidence rating between 5 (rock bottom) and 50 (total confidence). Give it a go today. I’m going to start adding some exercises and other tools over the next few weeks, so you can see what improvements you’ve made. Click on […]

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Is there a difference between self esteem and self confidence?

Self confidence and self esteem are linked but they’re not the same thing.  Sometimes the two do get confused. Your self esteem is how much you like yourself, how you see yourself.  What we see when we look in the mirror. Self esteem is somewhat passive and isn’t something others can observe in you. By […]

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the wedding – part 2

Returning to the wedding we went to last week there were two scenarios played out that typified how confidence is “all in the mind”. The bridegroom’s son was his best man and, as tradition dictates was required to give the final speech. I don’t know the guy, but it was clear he was petrified! But […]

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The wedding – part 1

Last week my wife and I went to a wedding. A relatively low key event – 50 guests, with bride and groom both second time around – it was interesting at how different people performed. Personally it didn’t start well – my suit trousers had mysteriously “shrunk” since I last wore them over a year […]

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