A Sad Twist to an Earlier Blog

We’ve all done it – typed our name into Google to see who else is out there (or whether we register in some way!). I did this yesterday and had quite a shock. I had blogged about the London marathon back in April, saying how completing it was such a tremendous achievement. What I didn’t […]

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Bill of Rights

I’ve been running a series of blogs that look at saying “No“ an essential part of confident communication. For some, learning to say this small word isn’t easy. We have learnt that saying no makes us uncaring, or selfish. Also, we learn to believe that by saying no we might lose friends, upset family or […]

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A Raincheck “No”

A “raincheck no”, says a clear no to the current request but does respond with a positive offer:- I can’t work your shift tomorrow as I’m doing something; however I can help out later in the week if thats any help?” The bottom line is, though, to only make an offer if you genuinely want […]

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Making change with support

My recent post How do you make changes did generate some interesting ideas, but mainly buried in the comments section and on others sites! I’m still learning, but its worth visiting the discussion it generated on Chris Garret’s New Media Blog The idea I wanted to float was the issue of support. I came across […]

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A 1000 year old Gnarled Giant!

My wife and I have just been away for a couple of days, staying in a hotel in the county of Gloucestershire. We enjoy walking, but now give this a focus by geocaching. which involves using a Gps unit to find hide caches. The joy of geocaching is that the hider of caches generally takes […]

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Reasoned “No”

Going back to saying no, we mustn’t forget simply giving a short, genuine reason for saying no. As before, there is no need to be overly apologetic or feel guilty. So to the request to work someones shift:- “I can’t work then as I’m out with my family” “I can’t help out as I have […]

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How do you make changes?

As I have touched on elsewhere, I am interested in self improvement generally – not just building great self confidence. But I have always had a big problem with self improvement products. Basically most are books, which follow the conventional format of a text book. The problem with a book, or even an audio product, […]

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A reflective No

Returning to confident communication and saying no. A variation on “broken record” is to add a reflection on what the person has said, before saying no in a firm way. It shows you are listening to the person, empathizing with them, but without being apologetic say no. So if at the request from a colleague […]

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