As I have flagged up before, lists are popular. And lists of ways to boost self confidence or self esteem are quite frequent, often rehashing the same ideas. I happened, via twitter, on one today – 10 Quick Confidence Boosters – in WomansDay.com.
The list is quite interesting:-
1. Straighten up.
2. Note the positives.
3. Break a sweat (or not).
4. Get a haircut.
5. Schedule a girls’ night.
6. Lend a hand.
7. Look on the bright side.
8. Make a list.
9. Set a (small) goal.
10. Try something new.
For one thing each suggestion is backed up by some research or "expert" advice. The other is how gender specific some of the advice is. OK, schedule a "boys" night out is the same thing. But the difference is that women can gain emotional support from a network of friends that men are unable to. Men don't connect in the same way as women – we just don't share personnel information.
The other suggestion that hit me is "Get a haircut". Ever since childhood having a haircut is an ordeal. Then it could lead to ridicule, now its just a tiresome chore. I don't know any men who actually look forward to having a haircut, or would see it as a confidence booster! [Read more…]